If Power is an Illusion

Hello There.
If power is an illusion, and we are all in control of our own thoughts, choices and decisions, then why are threats so effective? Is it because treats feed on our lack of the ablilty to control our emotions? Feeding on fear, and self preservation?
We have seen threats used throughout our entire lives. Our parents use them, the governments use them, our friends, teachers and leaders. on sports teams, in the car everywhere...

So if power is an illusion and threats are just the minipulation of emotions and we now "know" this: why to everytone of use, are they still effective? why do we still use them?

thoughts?

Cory Petrie